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The Shy Person’s Guide to Giving a Reading

11 May

 

I used to be shy.  I don’t mean a little shy.  I mean the type of shy that held me back from different opportunities.  It wasn’t that I lacked confidence in my abilities.  I just felt uncomfortable having attention focused on me.  Writing therefore seemed like a great career choice—except that, as I soon discovered, writing involves a fair amount of speaking.  If you’re a journalist, for example, you’re tracking people down and asking them oftentimes personal questions.  However, even if you’re a creative writer, these days it seems like you have to be a speaker as well.

It’s all part of that wonderful word we’ve come to know all too well: “platform.”  A writer needs to build their following and promote their work through readings and interviews.  If you’ve been sitting alone in a dark makeshift home office, you might relish these opportunities to speak to someone other than your pet bird.  However, many writers, even if they’re not shy, are introverts.  Which means, even they’re not shy, they’re not necessarily the type to seek out big crowds of people.  When I was at the Festival of Faith and Writing last month, so many people who approached me (not something a shy person would necessarily do) afterwards told me that they’re introverts.

I remember giving my first big oral presentation in fourth grade.  As the shyest person in the class, I was certainly not looking forward to it.  However, the day of the oral presentations came, and I was just fine.  You know who fainted?  The popular kid in class.

These days I don’t dread public speaking.  It’s not an activity that gives me great pleasure, the way some people love karaoke or acting, but I generally don’t mind public speaking.  I’ve even been encouraged by it.

Here are a couple tips for public speaking I’ve learned through trial and error:::

Get plenty of sleep 48 hours in advance.  Being tired will make you feel anxious.  Try to get a decent amount of sleep the two nights before the reading.  I say two nights because you can’t just cram in sleep.

Drink plenty of water 48 hours in advance.  Don’t drink anything too close to your reading time.  When you’re nervous, you might feel like you need to pee more often.  However, you should be hydrated because speaking loudly can make your throat parched.  Also, lay off the caffeine and alcohol.  I know a lot of writers have notoriously drank to overcome their nerves.  Jack Kerouac was one of them.  And everyone knows it.  Do you really want to be that person?  While caffeine will make you anxious and make you sound like the Micromachines man, zooming through your reading, alcohol might make you slur your speech.  Stick with water.

Dress up.  When I was in undergrad, I used to dress up whenever I had a big test.  It may sound superficial, but dressing up gave me confidence.  When you give a reading, you’ll want to dress appropriately for the occasion.  I won’t mention the specific name of the awards ceremony, but I went to a book award ceremony a while back and was dismayed at the authors’ appearances.  They looked unkempt.  Yes, I know what matters more your inner character and your talents, however if you’re receiving an award or have been selected to give a reading, you should be respectful in your attire and dress for the occasion.  Besides, there are very few opportunities when we get to dress up.  Why let Hollywood stars have all the fun??

Be prepared.  Practice your reading several times.  Type your talk up in a large enough font that you don’t have to hold the paper close to your face to read it.  It may also be helpful to write little notes or add extra spaces reminding yourself to breathe, to look up, to smile.

Be thankful.  Being selected to give a reading is not a punishment.  It’s an honor.  People are celebrating your writing talents.  They’re making time in their busy schedules to hear you.  You’re already a star in their mind.  You don’t have to change who you are and pretend to be a stand-up comedian or loudmouth if that’s not who you are.  You just have to be yourself and be gracious.

 

If you happen to be in New York City, I cordially invite you to attend my reading this Friday, May 11.  It will be a super short reading sometime between 5pm and 9:30pm, at Lang Center, 2nd Floor, 55 W. 13th Street.

Mark Your Calendar: MFA Thesis Reading

27 Apr

It’s been posted in the Appearances section for a while now, but in case you missed it I’ll be reading from my MFA thesis at The New School on Friday, May 11.  The readings begin at 5pm and will go til about … 9pm.  It’s going to be a long night, but you’ll get to hear some amazing creative nonfiction writers, fiction writers, and poets.  I’d recommend the event to agents and acquiring editors looking for fresh work.  This isn’t amateur’s night.  Most of these writers have been published in lit journals and have their names on the covers of books.

Here’s the list of writers who will be reading from their MFA thesis.  This list is in alphabetical order and does not reflect the actual order of readings, which has not yet been released.

Connie Aitcheson, Andrew Baranek, Lisa Marie Basile, Elissa Bassist, Maya Beerbower, Justine Bienkowski, Nora Boydston, Peter Burzynski, Maxine Case, Karisa Chappell, Sona Charaipotra, Johnny Chinnici, Nicole Cuffy, Mark Cullen, Andrew Cusick, Jennifer Doerr, Asa Drake, Keara Driscoll, Alex Dryden, Leda Eizenberg, Amy Gall, Britt Gambino, Sarah Gerard, Lenea Grace, Dulcy Gregory, Hanson Hadi, Althea Hanke-Hills, Amanda Harris, Sheryl Heefner, Rachael Marie Hurn, Elizabeth Karp-Evans, Zach Keach, Vivian Lee, Kristen Levingston, Claire MacLauchlan, Kevin Maus, Frederick McKindra, Ruthanne Minoru, Loren Moreno, James Mullaney, Stephanie Nikolopoulos, Stephanie Paterik, Xan Price, Jonathan Seneris, Jade Sharma, Nancy Shear, Justin Sherwood, Tim Small, Daniel Stein, Katrin Thompson, Alex Tunney, Markland Walker, Tamara Warren, Erin Emily Wheeler, Whitney Curry Wimbish, Elisabeth Yriart

The night before, the following people will be reading:

Pia Aliperti, Caela Carter, Bryant Cheng, Dhonielle Clayton, Jason Collins, Dustin Cosentino, Brandon Covey, Justin Davis, Ken Derry, Sarah Devlin, Amy Ewing, Alissa Fleck, Michelle Friedman, Jim Genia, Alyson Gerber, David Gibbs, Jon Gingerich, Alyssa Goldstein, Frances Gonzalez, Melanie Greenberg, Joanna Grim, Francesco Grisanzio, Patricia Guzman, Michael Halmshaw, Corey Haydu, Laura Jo Hess, Molly Horan, Ben Hurst, Amber Hyppolite, Kevin Joinville, Danielle Kaniper, Justin Langley, Winston Len, Madelyn Mahon, Brookes Moody, Ansley Moon, Jane Moon, Christian Ochoa, Mani Parchman, Riddhi Parekh, Nathalia Perozo, Theodore Riquelme, Edwin Rivera, Cristina Sciarra, Mary Thompson, Crissy Van Meter, Jessica Verdi

See!  I told you.  Amazing writers all around.  I’m honored to have worked alongside them.  I look forward to seeing our books side-by-side in bookstores around the globe.

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Update!  A couple people have asked what time I’m reading.  I won’t know until I get there.  But there will be amazingly talented writers to listen to the whole night.  Also, it’s free and there will be beverages and snacks.  It will be held at Theresa Lang Center, 55 West 12th Street, 2nd Floor.

The after party will be at Fiddlestick’s Pub & Grill at 56 Greenwich Ave.

My Festival of Faith & Writing Festival Circle: Holy Grounds — The Role of Place in Your Spiritual and Literary Life

9 Mar

As I mentioned a while back, I’ll be leading a Festival Circle this year at the Festival of Faith & Writing held at Calvin College.  It’s a tremendous honor to have been selected to facilitate a discussion group at this prestigious writing conference, where so many authors I admire will be speaking.

In case you’re unfamiliar with what Festival Circle is, here’s how FFW describes it:

This year, we are once again offering Festival Circles, small groups that will meet at least two times during the Festival to discuss a topic of common interest. Each circle, composed of approximately 12–15 attendees and led by a Festival participant, will meet during Thursday dinner and Saturday lunch. Because the circles are scheduled to meet at the same time, it’s possible for attendees to participate in only one.

They go on to explain its purpose:

We hope that Festival Circles will give you a place to connect with other attendees, and to deepen and extend your experience of the Festival.

I want to share with you the description of the Festival Circle that I’m hosting:

Holy Grounds: The Role of Place in Your Spiritual and Literary Life
By looking at what the Bible has to say about the setting of a story, this circle will encourage participants to carefully consider the role of place in their writing, and challenge them to see how different locations affect a story’s style and content.

Facilitator: Stephanie Nikolopoulos
Bio: Stephanie Nikolopoulos (www.StephanieNikolopoulos.com) has worked in book publishing in Manhattan for ten years, is the visual arts editor for Burnside Writers Collective, and is a co-leader of the Writers Group at the Center for Faith & Work at Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New York; her writing has appeared in magazines, newspapers, and books across the country.

I’m genuinely passionate about the multi-faceted subject of place.  I wrote about place for my undergrad thesis at Scripps College, my Burnside Writers Collective column Church Hopping talks about the architecture of unique and beautiful places, the travelogue I wrote an introduction to obviously has a strong emphasis on place, the nonfiction book Burning Furiously Beautiful I’m co-authoring describes how the landscape and history of place affected one of America’s greatest novels, and the memoir I’m writing deals very much with place. My resume aside, I love traveling.  I moved out to California for college without ever even visiting the state first.  I’m the child of an immigrant so place has always played an important role in my identity, in my understanding of who I am and where I come from.

Place isn’t always about a physical place, though.  Place can be a mood, a mental space, a spiritual space.  Place can be about a journey, whether that means hopping a train, opening a book and getting lost in the imagination of an author, being moved to tears, learning something about yourself, understanding the world better, or opening yourself up to a new relationship.  A journey from point A to point B isn’t always a single straight line.  This is true for a traveler (even Jack Kerouac had an infamous setback when he first set off on the road), for a writer (hello, thesis draft number 452), or for a person of faith (Paul went around killing Christians before he went on the road to Damascus and saw the light; as a boy David may have killed Goliath but as an adult he committed adultery … and had the woman’s husband killed; Peter adamantly denied even knowing Christ and then became a martyr).  As the old Paula Abdul song goes, two steps forward, two steps back….

With all that in mind, know that I am on a journey too.  I simply want to walk alongside other writers and talk about the meaning of place in all areas of our lives.  If you would like to join my Festival Circle or any of the others, you can find out how to do so here.

BWC Headed to FFW FTW (That’s an Inside Joke)

23 Jan

Burnside Writers Collective is headed back to the Festival of Faith and Writing!

Our lovely associate editor Kim Gottschild posted all about it on Burnside, highlighting why you should go:

  • Attend a writing workshop led by our very own Arts Editor, Stephanie Nikolopoulos!
  • Hear our very own Susan Isaacs, author of Angry Conversations with God, speak!
  • Meet our Deputy Editor, John Pattison, who will be there hosting a breakout session on book reviewing with ERB Editor-in-Chief, Chris Smith!
  • Hear plenary speaker, author Jonathan Safran Foer and watch BWC Editor-in-Chief Jordan Green become his best friend!  JK.
  • Meet other fantastic Burnsiders like Social Justice Editor Penny Carothers, Diane Nienhuis, Associate Editor Sara Sterley, Betsy Zabel, and me!
  • Pick up some swag, like a bookmark or something!

So sweet of her to mention me by name. Check back on this blog soon for more information on my workshop.

I truly love working with Burnside and getting to meet all the people I work with but don’t usually get to see.  I have the privilege of working with some of the most talented and funny and sincere people.  I had such a blast with them last time.

It’s also really fun meeting readers.  Hope you’ll consider joining us!  Drop me a line in the comments if you plan on being there and make sure to stop by our table to say hi!

As if meeting the Burnside staff isn’t enough, Ruben Martinez, Gary Schmidt, Marilynne Robinson, Kathryn Erskine, Shane Claiborne, and many more award-winning, high-profile authors will be there.

Writing Wednesday: BWC Church Hopping Column Goes Live in NYC This Summer

29 Jun

While I tend to write a lot about my life as a Greek American here, for the past few years I’ve been writing about art and architecture and faith over at Burnside Writers Collective.  Three years ago, I began writing a column called Church Hopping, in which I visit — most of the time physically but occasionally virtually — churches throughout the world, and write about their incredible history and art.  The Church Hopping column is one of the writing projects I’m the most proud of, and of which the Burnside community has been incredibly supportive of.

That’s why I’m so happy to announce that I’m partnering with Burnside Writers Collective, City Grace Church, and Redeemer Presbyterian Church to create live Church Hopping events this summer!  That means that you can join in on the fun.  Read more about it here and register here.  Space is limited and it’s filling up fast so even though the first event is a month away, I suggest registering asap if you plan on attending.

It’s Been Four Years

24 Jun

 

It’s been four years since I’ve seen my brother.

About five years ago my brother moved to Greece.  He was twenty years old at the time.  He’d been enrolled in undergrad in Boston and decided to move to Greece and go to school there.

I didn’t want my little brother to leave.  I told him he could live with me.  But he left anyway.  I suppose it made sense for him.  The rest of our family was already living there.

I visited the first summer after he moved to Greece.  I intended to visit again the year after that.  I really did.  But, I didn’t make it that year.  And I haven’t make it in the years that have followed.

I have excuses reasons.  Lots of them.  I moved twice during that time period.  One of the moves was an out-of-state move.  (If moving from one side of the George Washington Bridge to the other counts.)  I wanted to travel to more places than just Greece.  I’ve transitioned between three different jobs, making accruing time off from work more difficult.  I started grad school.

The decision not to go to Greece felt right each time.  It seemed “practical.”  The economy was plummeting, and I had to count pennies.  These were years of upheaval, transition, exploration with where I lived and where I worked and what I did in my free time.  But now I wonder how it got to be four years since I’ve seen my brother.  Now I question what being “practical” really means.

 

I’ll be reading from a story about the summer before my brother moved to Greece tonight at Redeemer.  You can register for free to attend.  Hope to see you there! 

Groundhogs Agree: We Will Be Sprung from Winter Soon

3 Feb

Today is Groundhog Day.  Today is Groundhog Day.  Today is Groundhog Day. Yesterday was Groundhog Day.  Apparently both Punxsutawney Phil and Staten Island Chuck agree: spring is on the way!

With all the thundersnow and ice NYC’s been hit with, spring can’t come soon enough.  I thought it might be a nice time to share some spring images with you that I took last year at the Brooklyn Botanical Garden Cherry Blossom Festival.

 

 

 

Take a Bite Out of the Big Apple with Asphalt Eden

6 Jan

After a few months’ hiatus, Asphalt Eden is back!  Asphalt Eden is a blog I founded in January 2009 that is a source for art, entertainment, sports, food, and Christianity in New York City.  It’s updated every week with event listings going on throughout the city.  You’ll find out about efforts to make the lives of the homeless more comfortable and dignified, major conferences that bring different churches and denominations together, and how faith and work are related.